Archive for December, 2013

The Winter Solstice has come and gone, and the new year has yet to arrive. In a perfect world, I’d be writing this on a dark and stormy Sunday afternoon, rain pelting the windows while the cats sit on the sill, transfixed by the sight of such weather. This is not, however, a perfect world, which is why it’s an eighty-degree cloudless day here in Surf City. Despite this, the days are short and the nights long, and it’s not uncommon to find oneself in a reflective place around this time, with the chaos of Christmas over and the promise of a New Year yet to appear.

As 2013 draws to a close, I look back on the year with mixed feelings. I finished writing my first novel and did a lot of writing for a respected film site, celebrated our first year of both marriage and home ownership, and saw one of my closest friends get married. I have seen other friends become parents and grandparents, old friendships have faded and new friendships have arisen. Such is the circular nature of life; the wheel turns for all of us and so it goes for another year.

On the larger scale, we lost many great people this year, several whom were friends. In the interest of maintaining sanity and friendships, I disconnected myself from all news and political sites, which may have been the most intelligent decision I made this year. I’m not completely out of touch (I know about Edward Snowden, Obamacare, and the NSA ); it’s just that I am not interested in allowing this knowledge to influence my life and the relationships I have with people who matter to me. Human connections are far more important to me than to lose them over divisive issues.

So, rather than give in to cynicism over the year that’s passed, let’s instead look forward, with an eye on the future and hope in our hearts, and find something in each day that makes us laugh, or cheer, or think. Something that shows we’re still capable of being amazed like when we were kids, that we’re still able to believe in the impossible, the improbable, and the uncanny, and to experience the great adventure of life. Step out of the rut and onto the road and embrace awesomeness. Let’s make a resolution for the new year that we can actually achieve:

Let’s be better.

Better friends, better husbands, better wives, better fathers and mothers, better sisters and brothers, better grunts and bosses, better drivers, better writers, better whatevers…let’s be better at whatever we are, whatever we aspire to be, whatever we want to be. At the very least, let’s just try.